This feels that it was written for me. I have spent 32 years with my spouse and 1/2 of this time has not been healthy for me. I buy into the empty promises and worry about the impact on my children who are adults. My truth, I feel alive when I am away from him. It is so obvious and yet so difficult and scary. I am so lonely with him. Thank you for this.
Dear Paula, thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you’re beginning to bring in some beautiful self-awareness around when your nervous system feels more connected to self. Each day and each experience is evolving and can move us forward if we learn to trust ourselves a little more. Connecting to those you love and who care for you is so important in these times. Sending ❤️
Sending you so much support Paula for your bravery in engaging with your doubts and questions. That engagement alone is revolutionary. I left a 25 year marriage that I’d felt alone in for years. Sending love and support no matter the twists and turns of your process whatever the outcome. 💜💜💜
Dear Roxanna, goodness, knowing if and when to walk away can be so challenging can’t it? I always guide with open communication in safe spaces. Creating room for thoughts and feelings to be shared. For creating space for togetherness. A talking through. A meeting of trying. A being on the same side. But holding an awareness that the walking away is never a reaction to one thing - it’s the collective moments that add up and you feel you can’t try anymore. Knowing when you’ve reached that space is a deeply personal place. As well as holding a notion that every day we evolve and change as do our feelings. Listen deeply. Reach out to friends. Connect with those who have your best interests at heart. And also gently remind yourself that relationships are a two way process if they are to continue to thrive. I hope somewhere here there is some help. Sending ❤️
This feels that it was written for me. I have spent 32 years with my spouse and 1/2 of this time has not been healthy for me. I buy into the empty promises and worry about the impact on my children who are adults. My truth, I feel alive when I am away from him. It is so obvious and yet so difficult and scary. I am so lonely with him. Thank you for this.
Dear Paula, thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you’re beginning to bring in some beautiful self-awareness around when your nervous system feels more connected to self. Each day and each experience is evolving and can move us forward if we learn to trust ourselves a little more. Connecting to those you love and who care for you is so important in these times. Sending ❤️
Sending you so much support Paula for your bravery in engaging with your doubts and questions. That engagement alone is revolutionary. I left a 25 year marriage that I’d felt alone in for years. Sending love and support no matter the twists and turns of your process whatever the outcome. 💜💜💜
Thank you, what if one has doubts about walking away or is indecisive about what to do? Does that mean maybe its worth it to give another try?
Dear Roxanna, goodness, knowing if and when to walk away can be so challenging can’t it? I always guide with open communication in safe spaces. Creating room for thoughts and feelings to be shared. For creating space for togetherness. A talking through. A meeting of trying. A being on the same side. But holding an awareness that the walking away is never a reaction to one thing - it’s the collective moments that add up and you feel you can’t try anymore. Knowing when you’ve reached that space is a deeply personal place. As well as holding a notion that every day we evolve and change as do our feelings. Listen deeply. Reach out to friends. Connect with those who have your best interests at heart. And also gently remind yourself that relationships are a two way process if they are to continue to thrive. I hope somewhere here there is some help. Sending ❤️